Why I Had a Small Wedding

February 22, 2018 5 By EngineerMommy

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About ten years ago, I married my high school sweetheart. Just to be clear, we had already completed graduate school by the time we tied the knot. Anyway, our wedding was small … like super small! I believe we had about about 25 guests.

Do I ever regret not having a large fairytale wedding? Not for a second.

If I could re-live that day, would I do it any differently? Absolutely not.

Let me tell you why…

Smart Reasons to Have a Small Wedding

Why I Had a Small Wedding

Why I Had a Small Wedding

1. It’s easier to plan!
I’m a planner by nature but I don’t like the stress of organizing a big shindig. Figuring out the flowers and the music and the desserts … I simply just don’t care enough about any of those things. Planning a smaller wedding is way easier – there’s less to think about and less to worry about.

2. You don’t have to be the center of attention!
Even as a young child, I never dreamed of my wedding. I had no visions of a big white dress and bouquets of flowers. I always imagined myself getting marries and having a family, but I never got excited about a classic, traditional fairytale wedding. The truth is I don’t like being the center of attention. As a former hair model & actress, I have walked down runways and participated in professional photo shoots countless times. However, at the end of the day, I prefer a low-key celebration without frills.

3. You don’t have to invite everyone!
Having a small wedding makes it easy not to invite everyone under the sun. My wedding took place about a year after my husband and I relocated to another state. We had recently started new jobs and moved to a new neighborhood. So it was relatively easy for us to include just family on our guest list.

4. Avoid wedding day amnesia!
I have heard from some friends that had big weddings that they don’t remember all the details from their wedding. From the wedding planner to the super-packed schedule of photos & meals & more, it can be all too easy to not remember any details. On the other hand, I had a small wedding and I’m still able to remember a lot of the details and events of the day in vivid detail.

5. Save money!
A smaller wedding is generally more affordable than a larger wedding, especially since most venues charge by the person. So if you’re looking for ways to keep more money in your pocket, a smaller wedding is a smart move. Truthfully, we didn’t choose a small wedding to save on money. All the previous reasons played into our decision to have a small wedding, but the financial savings are significant enough to warrant a spot on this list.

I have been to numerous weddings over the years from smaller ones to larger rooms. I always feel like the larger ones are impersonal and feel like a theatrical production. I really wanted an intimate celebration. Plus, in my opinion, the focus of choosing a life partner should be on the marriage and not on a single day.

Are you planning on getting married? Did you have a large or small wedding? Do you regret your choice?

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